Q & A Session: Conflict Resolution and Time Out

 

 Did you catch the replay of the first ever Q&A Facebook Live Session?  You can check it out above.

Some highlights from today's discussion:

When should you step in when conflict arises?

In the video I talk about moving closer to the children, creating proximity.  This gives you, as the adult, a first row seat to what is going on.  Is everyone safe?  What actually is happening?  By getting close, we are able to see both sides of the conflict while making sure that everyone is okay.  

Then, you need to wait and see what solutions the children develop.  Remember that sometimes their solutions do not make sense to the adults in the room :) If both children are in agreement, the solution is a success!

Why is the brain important in regards to behavior?

I demonstrate the hand model of the brain developed by Dr. Siegel. This model will help us facilitate young children's behavior development as they move from flight/fight responses to more sophisticated behaviors. 

What are my thoughts on "time-out?"

I approach the subject of using time-outs.  I do not feel that is a one-size-fits-all approach for behavior issues that arise.  The reason is that the time-out does not teach the child a new, appropriate skill.  Time-outs do not take the function of the behavior into consideration.  If you want more information about the functions of behavior, check out this video and head to the 10:30 mark. 

I do think that calming corners or spaces are very beneficial.  This is never used as a punishment, instead it is used as a strategy for regulation.

What other questions can we tackle in the next Q&A?  

Make sure to leave them in the comments or email them to me at branchandblossomatelier@gmail(dot)com